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Tips for Wedding Catering from Fête Catering and Ballroom

Fête’s Tips for Working with a Caterer for Your Wedding:

• Set realistic planning goals and book in advance, especially during the busy season.
• Deciding on a venue is a key step involved in choosing a caterer. Ensuring the space is the right size for your guests is key—no one wants a reception that feels empty or crowded or a room that makes serving difficult.
• It is usually much less expensive to hold your event at your caterers’ ballroom than at an offsite locale – there are no additional rentals, venue percentages, or venue charges, and the bars are usually way less if provided by the caterer on or off-site than if the venue does the bar.
• If you do select a venue which requires an ‘off-site’ caterer, be sure the caterer has proper insurance, licenses, trucks & equipment – make sure they can really handle it.
• Know your budget, and know where you have wiggle room and where you can’t afford to. For catering, you are quoted per person, so it is very helpful to come up with a per person price as opposed to a fixed number.
• Call the prospective caterers instead of sending a mass email – we all usually need more information than you provide in the email in order to do your proposal, and we like to chat with you to learn a bit about you instead of emailing you some generic proposal.
• When meeting with caterers, let them learn about you and see your personalities.
• Figure out the overall feel and atmosphere you would like for your wedding – it is helpful to your caterer and vendors to pick up on the vibe you are envisioning. Some brides have known what they want since they were little girls, some are still unclear about what they want and chatting with the caterer and florist can help develop your vision.
• Be original! You don’t need fancy foods and caviar to have a wonderful reception.
• Would you like your food to reflect your ethnic background, active lifestyle, or love of chocolate? Suggest it! Your caterer wants your menu to be wonderful, fun, delicious and well within your budget. Personalize it… create a menu that puts the spotlight on you and your fiancé and reflects your tastes.
• Don’t be afraid to try something new and different – let your guests walk away at the end of the night talking about how the food wasn’t like typical ‘catering food’.
• After meeting with possible caterers, look over each proposal and determine which one seemed to get the best sense of what you had in mind and proposed the menu that will be the best fit for your wedding. If you have a theme in mind, which caterer can best help you reflect it? Which catering representative did you ‘click’ with them most? Which menu proposal will best match the ambience you want for your wedding? Which caterer will be best able to accommodate any dietary limitations without compromising quality? Which company will give you the freshest and best tasting food?
• Allow your caterer to do their job…be involved and responsive but don’t micro manage.
•Does your venue have a preferred caterer list? Explore all the websites and menus from this list to help narrow down your caterer selection and then get bids from your 3 favorites.
•Don’t feel limited to “canned” catering menu packages. Work with a company that is willing to let you customize your menu.
•Have one and only one person from the bridal party/family dealing with the caterer. It can be confusing for us to receive calls from the best friend, Mom, Dad, Grandma, the bride and groom, and the wedding planner and still keep everything straight!
•Check the bottom line and fine print on your contract making sure that there are no hidden charges and everything is included from the get-go. A real bummer is ending up with ‘surprise’ charges on your bill at the end.
•Remember that the size of your guest list directly impacts the cost of your menu.
•Write a thank you letter to your catering coordinator & the staff – they really care and it means so much to them to hear how happy you were with what they did for you.
•It is a day all about you and your loved ones… remember to have fun and enjoy it – let the professionals that you hired do their job so that you can ‘be a guest at your own party’.

With years of restaurant and catering experience between them, local husband-and-wife restaurateurs Jaymie and Tommy Klauber began Fête Catering in 2003. Business has been booming ever since, so much so that Fête Catering offers its own onsite ballroom and event facilities in addition to providing offsite catering services. Fête is passionate about providing each and every customer with great food, service and atmosphere at affordable prices. www.caterfete.com

Wedding day Fashion – it’s now not just ALL about the ladies!

Ian Prosser, Botanica International Design Studio

Nowadays so many different factors come into play when discussing the ‘look’ of your wedding. At Botanica, it’s not JUST about the flowers – we like to be involved or at least included in all visual aspects of a wedding. At the end of the day, as your team of vendors, it’s our job to work together to create a flawless event not only logistically, but visually as well.

Years ago it was all about the women. The bridal gown and the Bridesmaids dress style and color always dictated the color scheme and style of a wedding. It’s important before starting to discuss any floral or décor for the day of your wedding, to have your bridal gown selected as well as your Bridesmaids dresses. Bringing in a swatch and pictures always comes in handy. Something we seem to forget about or deem less important is the men’s fashion. In today’s fashion conscience world – it’s actually all about the men’s fashion when it comes to planning your wedding day decor.

The Bride and the Bridesmaids in some, if not most instances are always overdressed. So really it’s the men’s fashion that comes into play when setting the standards of the formality of the wedding, whether it’s a linen shirt and khaki pants, a charcoal suit or a black tux.

We are finding more these days that the men want to look as GQ as the women want to look beautiful. So even though at times it might be easier to just throw them in a black rented tux, a new suit might be more appreciated. At the very least, we always suggest purchasing new ties for your Groom and Groomsmen NEVER get a rented tie. Purchase a tie that coordinates nicely with your Bridesmaids, whether it’s a solid, striped or paisley tie. By purchasing the tie without being too “matchy matchy” it will create a very coordinated look and look super sharp for the photos. And our last piece of advice – NEVER put your men in color coordinating vests AND ties. It’s one or the other. For instance, if they are wearing a black tux and you want them to coordinate with your teal bridesmaid’s dresses, put your men in the black tux, with a black vest and a teal tie. Never a teal tie and teal vest – that just gives off the look that your groomsmen are 10 years too late for the prom.

More information about Botanica International Design Studio can be found at:

http://www.botanicaflorist.com

Wedding Invitation Wording

I ran across this darling stationery website called http://www.hellolucky.com. Not only are there many adorable wedding invitations, holiday cards and birth announcements there is a feature on: How to Word Your Wedding Invitation. It’s very informative and helpful for invation copy.

http://www.hellolucky.com/wedding-invitation-wording.html

Family Heirlooms & Traditions by a Recently Wed!

By Grace Hamlin married to Curtis Hamlin on November 14, 2009

By now I am sure you have noticed that all aspects of wedding planning requires a certain etiquette and incorporating family heirlooms and traditions is no exception. When including these delightful details in your special day it is important to pay attention to three helpful guidelines:

Etiquette Rule Number One: Ask for Permission

When I got engaged, the particular family piece I had my eye on was a veil my grandmother made.  I approached her and asked if she knew where the veil was that my mom and aunt had worn and when she tracked it down we found out it hadn’t been stored properly and the 20 + feet of lace had fallen victim to mold.  Once my grandmother had lovingly removed the mold inch-by-inch, I officially asked my aunt, mother and grandmother for permission to wear the veil.  Not only did I ask for permission to wear the veil, but I asked for permission to alter it since I wanted to have it mounted on a comb. It had originally been worn on some sort of 1960’s crown and then on a chain of daisies in the 1970’s – those of you who know me know the daisies look would not have worked on me the way it worked on my sweet mother.  The key etiquette here is to ask for permission. For those of you who have seen the movie 27 Dresses, you are familiar with that gut-wrenching scene where Katherine Heigl’s clueless sister totally reworks their deceased mother’s wedding dress to the point where it is unrecognizable without with out ever having asked her older sister’s feelings on the matter. Weddings are a beautiful time but they can also be a sensitive time – this is a good time to be especially careful of your family and loved ones feelings (and vice versa). So the bottom line in etiquette when incorporating family treasures is to be considerate and ask for permission.

Etiquette Rule Number Two: Keep It Safe

This piece of advice isn’t as much about etiquette but is equally, if not more important – guard these treasures. If you aren’t as lucky as I was to have a wedding planner like Nicole to protect these priceless pieces, then find a trustworthy friend or family member who is assigned to your particular item and have them guard it with their life. Chances are this heirloom is very special to you or someone else and that someone else wants it back the way they found it. So make like a Girl Scout and leave that camp site better than you found it if you catch my drift. 

Etiquette Rule Number Three: Be Creative

So maybe this isn’t an etiquette rule but I wanted to make sure I found a way to include as many loved ones as possible. After talking to Nicole about fun ways to incorporate family memorabilia we decided to create a guest book table to include photos of our family members on their wedding day. Not everyone has family jewels or Scottish kilts to pass down so get creative. Maybe you could read a passage that was read at your grandparents wedding or mimick the style of your parents wedding invitation on your own. What we did with the guestbook table wasn’t necessarily a wedding heirloom, but it was a fun way to honor special people in our lives and a beautiful reminder of what this blessed day is truly about – a lifelong commitment to loving one another.

Whether you’re having a funky, modern, vintage, or formal wedding, integrating a family tradition or heirloom is a wonderful way to make a special day even more memorable. Just remember to ask permission, keep it safe and be creative.

The veil, mold free and making its third (and hopefully not last) trip down the aisle.

One of our priceless pieces, my grandmother’s handkerchief that she walked up the aisle with on her wedding day. We put it on a silver tray and used it as a ring tray.

Here we are using a wedding present from my grandparents, French 17th century champagne glasses that we used for our toasts.

Our Guest Book with family pictures.

** Photos by Katie Beyer

Maid of Honor & Bridesmaid Etiquette

 My first post is about asking your bridesmaids and groomsmen to share in this special day with you. I’m often asked how a bride and groom should reach out to the closest friends and family that they want to stand by their side. I’ve seen some recent blog postings on adorable ways to ask your MOH and bridesmaids.

Will you be my Bridesmaid Greeting Card by Jenny Sweeney Designs

DIY Bridesmaids Cards featured on OnceWed.com

Now ladies, once you have been asked to be an attendant in a wedding party your duties kick in. The required duties of bridesmaids are pretty limited. They are required to attend the wedding ceremony and to assist the bride on the day of the wedding. I have seen some amazing and wonderful wedding parties and it just makes such a difference leading up to the wedding and on the wedding day. A bridesmaid is also asked to play a role in planning wedding-related events, such as a bridal shower or bachelorette party.  I think it’s fairly simple: make the events leading up to the wedding as smooth and easy as possible, be attentive at the rehearsal, ask if you can help, be on time and assist the brides needs on the wedding day. Also, this is just a little reminder to keep the booze to a minimum (at least until your duties have been completed and the dancing has begun). I personally think it’s nice to check in with the bride to see what her vision is for the shower and bachelorette party. For example, is she really into Vegas for the bachelorette party? Or would a great spa weekend close by home be more her thing? Just like everything else in the wedding it’s all about communication!